How To Create A Vision Board To Love Your Damn Self
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After several years of terrible dates and a few kinda-dating-but-not-really situationships, I completely gave up on any hope of finding love.
I was 98% sure that the problem was me…
I was too sweet and nice girls aren’t taken seriously in relationships.
I was too driven and guys were obviously intimidated by me.
Guys just want to talk to me because I’m fun and positive, but they never really see a future with me. (Sad, right?)
I couldn’t help but to give up.
I truly believed that I’d just end up alone. I envisioned myself sitting on my couch with a glass of wine, watching Netflix, always longing for the next Girls Night Out where my married friends would swear my guy was out there and it was only a matter of time. (Yes, this is actually what I was thinking!)
I felt defeated by love… unworthy of love… unwanted.
Giving up was my way of convincing myself that being alone was my choice. In reality, I would’ve settled for anything at that point (and sometimes I did).
I needed to pull myself out of that slump and re-learn that I am a valuable human. I have a lot to contribute to anyone in my presence, whether it’s friends, family, acquaintances or love interests. I am enough.
Somewhere along the long, winding road of rejection I’d forgotten that.
That’s when I decided I’d create my vision board in a way that reflects self love.
What is A Self-Love Vision Board?
A vision board is a tool that helps people envision what they want out of their life. The goal is to manifest (or command that the universe deliver) the future that you want to achieve. You can create a vision board for love, money, relationships, career, education and any other area of your life that’s important to you.
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A self love vision board specifically focuses on your ability to love yourself. This will include:
Tools you use for self care
Activities and people that bring you joy
Steps you take to release self-doubt, self-sabotage and limiting beliefs
Affirming quotes and images that represent your definition of loving yourself
Why Does A Self-Love Vision Board Work?
Your self love vision board is your tool to remind yourself that you’re worthy of love from yourself and that self-love is available to you 24/7, 365 days a year.
When I gave up on finding someone to love, I wasn’t giving up on love all together. Instead, I wanted to feel love; I didn’t want the feeling of anxiety around love.
I didn’t want to wonder if someone out there would discover me, be enamored by me and deem me worthy of love. I found myself lingering in limbo waiting for love to come to me.
The self love vision board gave me all the tools I needed to re-discover all of the things that make me happy as an individual. Through happiness, I re-discovered my ability to love myself.
How To Create Your Self-Love Vision Board
Creating your self love vision board requires you to ask yourself the tough questions and be honest with yourself about what you need to be happy with yourself.
What things make me happy that don’t cost any money?
What is that thing you can do without spending a dime and it immediately lifts your spirits and energizes you?
For example, I enjoy bubble baths by candle light and listening to jazz music, reading with tea in the mornings or spending time with my daughter playing video games.
In the last 7 days, what activities brought me joy?
When most people think about joy, their mind jumps to some extravagant moment: family trips, extended vacations, world travel. But the reality of your life is made up of the every day moments: going to the grocery store and heading to work.
Self love is about finding joy and love in your life in the every day. This question allows you to pinpoint the moments of your every day life where you find happiness and joy.
When can I schedule in more of these activities?
Happiness increases when the things that bring you joy and the way you spend your time are aligned. Can you schedule in more time for the things that make you happy on a daily, weekly or monthly basis?
What do I love about myself?
Self love can also come in the form of appreciation for your individual qualities. What makes you special or different? What is that thing only you do that makes you smile?
What are my 5 biggest accomplishments in the last year?
When you’re feeling insecure or that pain of not-enough-ness, it helps to remind yourself of the things that prove you’re an amazing human on this earth.
For example, when I fail at my day job, I feel insecure about my skills. However, I have a list of amazing things that I’ve done that reminds me that I’m not a terrible person who sucks at her job (I really do think that sometimes). I’m simply a human who made a mistake.
What is an affirmation I can use to strengthen my mindset when I feel fear?
Think about the reason you need self love in this moment of your life. Is there something you fear that’s giving you anxiety? If so, take account of all the negative feelings you have around love.
In my example, I was afraid that I wasn’t worthy of love and I’d end up alone.
To counteract that, I asked myself: “What would my life look like if I did end up alone?”
I would still kick ass at work. I would still build a supportive and powerful community around me. I would still enjoy my time with family and friends. 95% of my life would be exactly the same with or without a partner.
I started to use the affirmation “My life is meaningful with or without a partner. My happiness is not contingent upon finding love.”
This one affirmation helped me to release those fears and allowed me to fall in love with myself again.
Once you have the answers to these questions, it’s time to create your vision board.
Gather all the materials you need to create a vision board: poster board, magazines, scissors, glue
Page through the magazines to find the images and quotes that match your self-love goals
Glue your selections onto your poster board
When you finish you vision board, place it in a common area you’ll see it every day.
It’s time to take action. Make sure that you’re not just dreaming about caring for and loving yourself - you have to make the space to do it!
xoxo
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