How One Decision Can Get You the Life You Want
My goal was to go to Med School, become ‘Doctor Martin’.
Oh, I dreamed BIG, picturing how proud my family would be when I achieved what was expected.
I made checklists and followed them to the letter. Because that’s what you do, right?
Yet something didn’t fit. Part of me knew I wasn't moving towards my values and desires. But I ignored that inner voice that insisted:
“Chantl, you’re going the wrong way!”
I was my family’s ‘future doctor’. My mindset kicked into action. “I can’t quit, I’m not a quitter!”
THIS mindset is what’s stopping us from achieving our true purpose.
Quitting can be the best decision you ever make.
Because it’s a CHOICE to stop doing something you don’t love, you’re not good at, and doesn’t make you happy. You can choose to put yourself first and make space for things that light you up and make your soul sing with joy!
If you find yourself setting goals and still not being satisfied with the outcome. Not getting anywhere, making checklists, but not ticking any ‘dream’ boxes...
… then I want to let you in on a little secret.
It’s not about the goals game, it’s about the ‘decision-making’ pre-game!
You can set and hit ALL the goals, but it’s all for nothing unless goals come from conscious decisions aligning strengths, values, and life desires.
I've worked towards goals that didn’t align with my purpose. Climbed a ladder in a direction I felt I ‘should’ go, following well-meaning mentors, teachers, and family. And ended up somewhere I had no business being!
The biggest problem that comes up in conversation? The struggle to make the smart and sometimes tough decisions to get that dream life.
So, 2022, I’m officially canceling goal setting!
Instead, I’m going to teach you why decisions are so much better than goals and how to make the decisions to get on the right path to that dream life.
Not the life your parents want for you.
Not the path society tells you to take or those around you are on.
The path YOU want. Let that tiny inner voice scream it out loud!
THIS GOAL-SETTING GURU IS CANCELING GOAL SETTING
Goal setting has been the foundation of everything I teach. I’ve helped countless people create vision boards to get the life they want, and through uncertainty achieving more than they thought possible.
But this life-changing work has made me realize something I’ve always known but is now impossible to ignore.
People don’t need help with goals! You know how to set them, write to-do lists, break things down into small steps, set a timeline, and so on.
The problem I get the most emails about, the BIG thing people struggle with, and what stops most achieving women from moving forward toward their dream is ‘deciding’.
WHAT THE ACHIEVING WOMAN NEEDS HELP WITH
So many women come to me saying:
“Listen Chantl. I’m a Mom, a homeowner, a wife. Trying to go back to school, get that promotion, do all the things.
I’m overwhelmed, drained, and don’t know what to do!”
If this is you, all the goal-setting in the world won’t help. It won’t balance all the things you’ve got going on, and won’t help in figuring out the way forward.
Instead, it’s time to make some hard choices and decide what you really want to do–and let go of the rest.
WHY DECISION-MAKING IS SO DARN HARD
Let’s be honest, the achieving woman wants to do a bit of everything.
Do our jobs, take care of homes, aging parents, and children. Help glow up the next generation to do better, be wiser. Help family, friends, even strangers!
We give to everybody else and there’s nothing left for ourselves. Then we try to do 10 different things at once and end up achieving nothing.
This is the blueprint of how NOT to get what you want out of life.
WHY MAKING DECISIONS WILL GET YOU WHAT YOU WANT
Without decisions, you can end up on the wrong path. Arrive at success, turn around and think: “Wait, what in the world happened, I don’t want to be here!”
Or create something that doesn’t fulfill you and end up with yet another thing that drains.
Or give time and energy to a space you don’t love.
I don’t want this for you. I want to help you decide what you want to achieve and what’s best for you. To make that choice with confidence because it aligns with your values and what you want out of life.
YOU drive your desires. Not family expectations, influencers, or what some guru on the internet says. And definitely not because you’re told it’s the right time.
You know what I mean...
25? It’s time to get your life together!
30? It’s time to buy a house, get married, have kids!
Who said it’s time? It’s not time until YOU say it’s time! (Can I get an AMEN!)
Imagine how much you could achieve by trusting your gut, inner voice, and timing, and choosing what's right for you?
That’s why decision making is so much better than goal setting. It’s time to make a choice, my friend, a move forward with confidence.
Drop a comment below: What decisions have you been putting off?
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About the author
Cyrene is a fun and accomplished workshop facilitator, learning and development guru and Human Resources professional. Being at the helm of Thrive Lounge has been a long-time dream. Through vision board workshops she plans to accomplish two-way learning. Sharing her vast years of knowledge to motivate and encourage others; while simultaneously getting the reward of great energy, ideas and questions to ponder back from each group. A super win-win. Please join our Thrive Lounge community so you too can benefit!